We break things, like they are meant to be broken. We break them carelessly, or we break them like we want them to.
We break them to make us feel powerful. But the broken makes us feel weak at the same time, as we then realize that the broken seldom can be fixed or restored back to its former glory — what it’s meant to be, look or function.
Here’s the question then: Are things meant to stay or are they meant to be changed?
Things change. They always do. And we complain, and we regret, and we feel upset when they do. But the thing is, when they stay the same, we never really feel satisfied. Don’t we? Don’t you? Perhaps for some time, but then after you get the same thing over and over and over again, there will come a thought to you which says, “How I wish things change up a bit, a little, for a while, or something…”
We want change, but we do not welcome big changes. We want change because we want to feel life changing. We want to feel it moving… forward. But we don’t like it too drastic or too fast. We want to be able to catch up with the change, or let the change catch up with us.
Control. Yes, we all want it. We want to be in the know. We don’t want any sneak attack. We don’t like to be caught unprepared by anything.
Composure. A dignified smile. A good posture to greet people. Yes, to be composed. To appear ‘good’ and flawless. Humans like to greet each other like that. We want to appear as our best, always.
Who do we want to impress, really? Them, or ourselves? To let them know that we did a good job, or let ourselves know that we did a good job? Question.
But no matter, we don’t let ourselves break apart in front of others. We don’t let our veil of composure crack. We won’t. We don’t want to. Because then our flaws will show, and our flaws are what that makes us different from others. Flaws are what make each and every one of us special. Not strengths.
As humans, we ruin things. All the time. From time to time. We are not perfect. We want to be. We want to be alright. We want to be fine. But sometimes we are just not. We fall. We want to chill out a bit, we let go of things a little, and then things slip. They tumble and fall and break and die. And we say, oh no, that not what I planned, I didn’t expect that to happen…
Sometimes we try to salvage whatever that’s left. Then we try to build upon it. But things will not be the same. Maybe better, maybe worse. But what’s changed is changed. You either embrace it or you don’t — the good or the bad, or both. Things may appear to be better than they seem if you embrace it, or they may not. But what’s for sure, those that you do not embrace, they will only appear worse and worse.
Things left alone always go bad. Except for wine and cheese, and some other things I’m sure. But I’m not talking about food here. I’m talking about the things we break, not physically, but metaphorically. Like how love never lasts, how friendships fall apart, and how first impressions could be the best and the rest just goes downhill.
Sometimes we ruin things ourselves, by our own hands. Other times, we let other people ruin it all for us.
- Deep, Eternal Beauty: Having Kids Didn’t Ruin Your Body (blogher.com)
- Tag:historic=ruins (wiki.openstreetmap.org)
- The Silver Lining In Getting Your Heart Broken (thoughtcatalog.com)
- Look At You Like That Lyrics – Taylor Swift (ziasev.wordpress.com)
- May this dress help you to embrace change so that you may blossom . . . (dailydressproject.blogspot.com)
- My plans were ruined. (warwearyarmywife.wordpress.com)
- New Beginnings (mekadene.wordpress.com)
- Stupid. (deepmindxthepoetickindx.wordpress.com)
- What I Did on Christmas (ther0xannej0yce.wordpress.com)
- Lord Spiv – “British UKIP’s Nigel Farage has already struck a secret election deal with the Tories in return for a seat in the Lords” says Godfrey Bloom. (english-passport.org)