Facebook Depression

I know someone with a unique characteristic. He could be considered as an endangered specie. He is 23 years old and he doesn’t have a Facebook account.
He used to have one, and one day he took a deep breath and deactivated his Facebook account. Why did he made this drastic decision? He told me that Facebook made him sad.
Facebook increases the impression of loneliness; going through the Newsfeeds and discovering that our friends are having so much fun is depressing, inside  jokes are excluding and the whole social network makes you feel like you are constantly missing something.
Did you already have the impression that you don’t have enough friends, enough party pictures or enough check-in in well-known cool places? Sometimes I feel like my popularity on Facebook is driven by the number of pictures of me with red cups.
I remember a Facebook group called “I have 200 Facebook friends but I eat lunch alone”. This is to me the worst of Facebook: being Facebook friend with something and not knowing how to behave with this person in real life. Is being Facebook friend show the start of the relationship? You have to be seen on Facebook or you’re a ghost, but not too much or you’re a freak. What a pain in the butt!
And in addition, we are spammed by alarming articles which show how dangerous it is to be on Facebook, how Mark Zuckerberg will soon sell us as slaves and how you will never find a job because you posted a picture of you drinking a beer in 2007.
According to psychologists, being on Facebook can be a good or a bad thing. For people with high self-esteem, it’s a bless: you post funny pictures and status, you look happy and people want to grab a little bite of your popularity and they like and comment your activities.
On the other hand, people with lower confidence would see Facebook as a threat; a place where they are constantly judged and where their sad status are not taken into account.
Here is the vicious circle: deactivate your Facebook account can make you feel even more depressed and lonely, feel excluded from events or messages, without saying that you will have to come up against people’s constant question that won’t understand why you left Facebook. Even the term “deactivated” is scary, it sounds like you will end up without energy, like an empty shell.

8 thoughts on “Facebook Depression”

  1. This is just silly! Good to know I am an endangered species because I don’t have FB. No wonder people are so confused. Maybe if they pulled away from “socializing” on FB and actually met with someone face to face they would realize that most of the garbage posted on FB is an illusion anyway. Unplug and start living. Trust me it won’t make you a ghost it will make you ALIVE!

  2. Hey, Joyce! You do not have to have lower confidence to see Facebook as a threat (as you seem to say in your post).
    It is quite okay to be confident and happy and yet also still see Facebook as a threat. :)

    Facebook certainly is a useful tool if one needs it but it is also an ‘unfriendly’ tool. Facebook has a very poor consumer record and Facebook sells valuable private information about you to businesses that you have never heard of or even know exist.

    The businesses who ‘buy’ that information are not at all friendly. As Facebook encourages friends to communicate with each other, it encourages them to link address books with credit card transactions. Do you know who knows you just ordered a pizza?

    That ain’t friendly. That is nothing to do with “friendly”.

  3. Very interesting point! What if it is not FB fault, maybe if there were no FB, he would be depressed from something else? Should you be depressed because of your cellphone (no one is texting you or calling you)? Should he throw away his cell? Facebook is a tool, it is kinda like a cellphone, it helps you connect with your friends, colleagues and friends. If you want FB ‘attention’, make posts, commend on friends posts or pictures or something like that.

  4. I have the opposite reaction to facebook & yet I agree with you at the same time for many reason that are a bit different. I started a Facebook account to stay in touch with friends across the miles, since I used to travel all the time & then after moving 3 times in recent years, I found it was a great way to stay in touch with friends in each location. Every time I get on facebook I find so many depressing posts. I wrote a blog about it the other day titled “Healthy Hugs for my Facebook Friends”. Thinking back when I knew some of them in the various towns I’d lived in, I remembered they were always like this but I guess I just didn’t see it as much until it’s right there every morning in a post in front of me. Now with all of them all showing up on the same page every morning, it’s hard to miss the fact that so many people out there are depressed, sick all the time and constantly complaining about their lives. Now that we live in south Florida, I am enjoying a much healthier lifestyle and have even seen the difference for the better in my own always sunny personality. So basically, I see all these sad people & I realize that I’m luckier than most. You try to help, but there’s only so much you can do if they don’t want to be helped. This is why I still make an effort with most of them at least once or twice to try to educate them about the changes they could make to improve their lives, but I do find that if I spend too much time at it without a break, their depression tends to rub off a bit. So Facebook & other social networks have a similar effect on me for different reasons, yet many times being on there makes me realize how wonderful my life has become compared to all these depressed, sad & hopeless people out there.

  5. Really good article about the psychological fallout from Faebook, even if you aren’t addicted, as such, it has a pervasive effect on how we view ourselves and each other. It’s hard to ‘dance like no one’s watching’ at parties when everyone is, er…going to tag you in their photos. Yuck.

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