I know someone with a unique characteristic. He could be considered as an endangered specie. He is 23 years old and he doesn’t have a Facebook account.
He used to have one, and one day he took a deep breath and deactivated his Facebook account. Why did he made this drastic decision? He told me that Facebook made him sad.
Facebook increases the impression of loneliness; going through the Newsfeeds and discovering that our friends are having so much fun is depressing, inside jokes are excluding and the whole social network makes you feel like you are constantly missing something.
Did you already have the impression that you don’t have enough friends, enough party pictures or enough check-in in well-known cool places? Sometimes I feel like my popularity on Facebook is driven by the number of pictures of me with red cups.
I remember a Facebook group called “I have 200 Facebook friends but I eat lunch alone”. This is to me the worst of Facebook: being Facebook friend with something and not knowing how to behave with this person in real life. Is being Facebook friend show the start of the relationship? You have to be seen on Facebook or you’re a ghost, but not too much or you’re a freak. What a pain in the butt!
And in addition, we are spammed by alarming articles which show how dangerous it is to be on Facebook, how Mark Zuckerberg will soon sell us as slaves and how you will never find a job because you posted a picture of you drinking a beer in 2007.
According to psychologists, being on Facebook can be a good or a bad thing. For people with high self-esteem, it’s a bless: you post funny pictures and status, you look happy and people want to grab a little bite of your popularity and they like and comment your activities.
On the other hand, people with lower confidence would see Facebook as a threat; a place where they are constantly judged and where their sad status are not taken into account.
Here is the vicious circle: deactivate your Facebook account can make you feel even more depressed and lonely, feel excluded from events or messages, without saying that you will have to come up against people’s constant question that won’t understand why you left Facebook. Even the term “deactivated” is scary, it sounds like you will end up without energy, like an empty shell.